科普知识：怎样与身边“消极的人”相处

　　学习啦：我们身边可能都会有那么一两个比较丧的人，怎么才能更好的和他们相处呢?下面我们一起看看这篇《怎样与身边“消极的人”相处》。

　　在一个理想的世界里, 我们期待每个与我们交往的人都是积极的, 上进的,善良的,相互关心的和相互支持的……

　　现实是，我们并不是生活在一个理想的世界里!

　　In an ideal world, everyone with whom we interacted would be positive, uplifting, kind and caring and supportive...

　　but the reality is, we don't live in an ideal world!

　　更是让人感到遗憾的是,现实生活中的有些人, 由于种种原因,他们是消极的和困惑的,悲观的甚至是喜欢搞破坏的。

　　The sad reality is that some people, for a variety of reasons, are negative and difficult, pessimistic and even disruptive.

　　如果我们能接受这一现实, 我们应该如何与这些人相处呢? 即使有一些消极事物存在且无法消失，那我们该如何积极面对生活?我们怎么样才能不让他们影响我们拖垮我们呢?

　　So if we acknowledge this a reality, how can we deal with these people? How can we live positively, despite some negativity? How can we not allow them to drag us down?

　　和生活中的许多事情一样, 它并没有简单的答案。但也有一些实用的实战策略, 你会发现大多数情况下以下的方法是有用的，因为这些经过了多年来尝试和许多人测试得出的结果,

　　Well, as with many things in life, there are no simple answers. But there are some practical strategies, tried and tested over many years by many people, that you'll almost certainly find useful:

　　首先, 你要记住你不能控制或改变一切或每一个人。因此, 最重要的是接受这些人和事物

　　to begin with, remember you can't control or change everything or everyone. Accordingly, it's important to accept that some people will just be...who and what they are

　　无论何时何地, 只让他们做他们的事情, 你需要做的是听或观察, 不给予任何评语

　　when and where possible, just let them do their thing and listen or observe, without judgement

　　尽可能多的,尽你所能保持冷静(如上所述,我们不能控制别人,但我们可以试着控制自己)

　　as much as possible, do all you can to stay calm (as noted, we can't control other people but we can try to control ourselves)

　　在必要时, 当他们做痛苦的或破坏性的事情时尽可能让自己清楚地知道。当他们真的这样做了, 我们去关注这个问题不是人

　　where necessary, let the person know as clearly as you can if/when they're doing something that's distressing or disruptive. When doing so, focus on the issue NOT the person

　　如果可能的话, 想办法把困难变成积极的事物。可以这样做, 例如, 把悲观主义者的想法作为风险管理的一种形式!

　　If possible, find ways to turn their difficulty into a positive. Can, for example, that pessimist be used as a form of risk management!

　　如果有必要,限制你的时间和这个人在一起

　　If necessary, limit your time with this person

　　得饶人处且饶人，尽量避免冲突; 记住, 幽默是非常有用的。

　　Avoid, where ever possible, becoming defensive; and remember, where ever possible and appropriate, that humour can be very useful

　　最后, 尽你所能地照顾你自己的健康和幸福

　　and finally, do all you can to take care of your health and wellbeing

　　这是今天的心理学知识分享。有空可以学习一下, 看看是否可能适用于你。

　　我希望它能帮助你享受更多的幸福。

　　So that's today's sharing. Take some time to reflect upon the message and how it might apply to you.

　　I hope it helps you enjoy some more happiness.

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